It’s kind of human nature to dwell on things that bother us, events or people we feel betrayed or let us down in some way or another. Sometimes it can be hard not to return to those negative thoughts about how we “should” have been treated, but it’s really not healthy or helpful. Holding grudges can be fairly common. You’ll find it a lot in nature. Wasps can recognize faces and will attack someone who threatened them, dogs and cats will fear or lash out at someone who has hurt them in the past, even elephants and other larger animals on either side of the food chain have the ability to hold an almost instinctual grudge against someone who has brought pain or negativity into their lives, so why shouldn’t we? Chiefly, because it doesn’t do anyone but us any harm. Holding a grudge against someone doesn’t affect their life in the slightest. Someone who is going to treat you poorly enough for you to need to hold a grudge against them is probably not worth the saliva it would take to spit on their face, and they certainly aren’t out there worrying about whether or not you are upset at them. Take it from someone with plenty of reasons to hold grudges, from a deadbeat dad who ran out on me as a kid, to cheating exes, to horrible bosses who threw me under the bus to save their own skins, the list goes on and on. But so does life. And I promise, it is a lot better if you live with a positive outlook.

Daily writing prompt

Are you holding a grudge? About?

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